Love Your Neighbor (Matthew 18:21-35)

Link to Matthew 18:21-35

This parable brings to light the connection between gratefulness and forgiveness (love) for neighbor. When we neglect to reflect and be thankful for our own life and experiences, we often try to make a neighbor's loss our gain in an attempt to fill the void only deep gratitude can fill. When we look at life from a perspective of scarcity (they must lose in order for me to win), love for our neighbor becomes malnourished and eventually dies. When our attitude and posture toward each other begins with reflection on the abundance of God's presence in our lives (and the life of the world), we begin to see that our relationship with our neighbor is built on a foundation of infinite abundance and not of exhaustible scarcity. There is no beginning and no end to the amount of love accessible through the act of forgiveness.

As you encounter those around you today, ask God to open your eyes to gratefulness that leads to an infinite abundance of neighbor-loving forgiveness.


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Tomorrow on the Daily Connection: Who Is My Neighbor?


About the Author
Isaac Gaff is the Managing Director of Worship and Creative Arts at Calvary UMC

Deeper Dive Podcasts (Matthew 18:21-35)

Lloyd and Isaac talk about the personal backstory that influenced Lloyd's sermon, other world religion concepts of forgiveness, and the concept of the "unforgivable sin."

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Lloyd Hulit is the Lay Leader at Calvary UMC
Isaac Gaff is the Managing Director of Worship and Creative Arts at Calvary UMC

Teach us to Pray (Matthew 18:21-35)

The major work of prayer is alignment with the heart of God. As we contemplate God through scripture, reflection, awareness, and dialogue; we often find that alignment with God's heart begins with a disruption in the "normal" ways of wisdom. 

Relational score-keeping has been a "normal" mode of operation for humans for thousands and thousands of years. Our first law codes as civilizations were built on the premise of transactional fairness (if someone cuts off your hand, their hand will be cut off in fair retaliation). But the concept of forgiveness disrupts this cycle of 1-to-1 and taps into a system of relational abundance instead of relational scarcity. When we disrupt the cycle of 1-to-1 retributive violence, we step closer into the infinitely loving heart of God - a place where our deepest sense of self, world, and others resides, flourishes, and grows.

As you pray today, take an inventory of 1-to-1 cycles you're collecting (relationships, situations, personal identity) and imagine, for a moment, what these would look like when disrupted by forgiveness. Ask God to give you moments throughout the day and week to see and anticipate what these cycles look and feel like when disrupted by forgiveness.

Link to Matthew 18:21-35


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About the Author
Isaac Gaff is the Managing Director of Worship and Creative Arts at Calvary UMC

Sunday Worship (Matthew 18:21-35)

This week we'll be exploring Matthew 18:21-35.  

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”
Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.
“Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.
“At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.
“But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.
“His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’
“But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened.
“Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.
“This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”

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Tomorrow on the Daily Connection: 'Teach Us to Pray' through Matthew 18:21-35. 

A Light to My Path (Matthew 18:21-35)

Our text for the next week is Matthew 18:21-35:

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”
Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.
“Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.
“At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.
“But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.
“His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’
“But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened.
“Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.
“This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”

Questions for Reflection:

  • Do you keep count of how many times you've forgiven someone? Is there anyone who is close to their limit?
  • Which person do you identify with in Jesus' parable?
  • Why do you think forgiveness among each other is so important in what Jesus calls the kingdom of heaven?

Who Is My Neighbor? (Tienne)

Many years ago, my mother volunteered regularly at a hospital in Lafayette, Indiana in a program where she'd hold, rock, and talk to newborn babies. I recall those were times when no parent was at the hospital, believe it or not.  She loved it and the babies needed it.  They needed the human touch and interaction.

On an occasion when I was in Uganda while on a walk in the neighborhood, three small boys saw me and waved.  The smallest one, about six years old, ran up to me and touched my arm.  Perhaps he did it because I am light-skinned or there's hair on my arm. Who knows?  But, at the moment it made me think about the value and basic need of human touch.  It also reminded me of an event that happened earlier that day. 

My son Zach and I took a 20-minute boda boda (motorcycle taxi) ride to Caanan's Children's Home, home for 70 children. This is a home that Zach and his wife Brooke have been connected with for several years. They've visited it many times and even stayed on site. They sponsor a boy named Eddie there and my wife Beth and I sponsor a girl named Teopista. We were excited to go and we even had gifts for both children. 

You can imagine the disappointment when we arrived to learn the children were on holiday due to government elections. Only a small group of kids were there, none of whom was Eddie or Teopista. One of the staff called the contact numbers for both kids and Eddie was able to come to Caanan's but Teopista couldn't due to visiting an ill grandmother. 

Zach had fun seeing Eddie and I had fun meeting him.  What a sweet and fun-loving child of nine years. Zach gave him a soccer ball which then led to a fun time playing with a couple other boys joining in. 

Although I was disappointed with not meeting Teopista, I think God had something else in mind. There was a little girl named Tienne, the smallest preschool age girl there. She came up to me and grabbed my leg and hugged it.  Then she wanted me to hold her arms and swing her between my legs.  This led to a time of Tienne and I swinging, doing cartwheels (attempting them in my case), and even me comforting her when she hurt herself and started crying. 

I think Tienne craved human touch and attention; but, to be frank, at that moment so did I. Although I had been getting hugs, kisses, and handholds from my grandson M and loving it, I missed giving and getting hugs and kisses from my wife Beth and granddaughter Delaney.  And, I missed getting a hug and kiss from my daughter Hailey who had just visited Bloomington the prior weekend with my grandson Wyatt, who I would have held, of course.  

So, although I did not meet Teopista that day, I think God brought Tienne and me together for a few minutes so we could share something all human beings need, which is to touch and be touched.


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About the Author
Rob Wall is a member of Calvary UMC and works with our Outreach Ministry.

Love Your Neighbor (John 20:19-30)

We sing a song in our 10:30 service called “Brother.” The song reminds us that “when I look into the face of my enemy, I see my brother.” The middle of the song contains a bridge that is an unlikely exploration of our text this week (John 20:19-30) as well as next week's (Matthew 18:21-35):

Forgiveness is the garment or our courage
The power to make the peace we long to know
Open up our eyes to see the wounds that bind all of humankind
May our shutter hearts greet the dawn of life with charity and love

The associations between this song and our text for the week are subtle and not heavy handed, but that makes them no less impactful. Listen to both John 20:19-30 and Brother and see if they don’t begin to form an intertwined dance of love for neighbor.


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About the Author
Isaac Gaff is the Managing Director of Worship and Creative Arts at Calvary UMC

Deeper Dive Podcast (John 20:19-30)

Michael and Isaac talk about the original language of the word "believe" and explore what it means when "faith seeks understanding."

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Michael Pitzer is the Director of Student Ministry at Calvary UMC
Isaac Gaff is the Managing Director of Worship and Creative Arts at Calvary UMC

Teach Us to Pray (John 20:19-30)

Read John 20:19-30

Much attention is given to the belief/unbelief of Thomas in this passage (and it should be given attention). But today I want to focus on what is sometimes called the 'Pentecost of John' - the moment Jesus "breathes" the Holy Spirit onto the disciples (“receive the Holy Spirit”). 
When John uses the word "breathe," he's calling us back to our beginnings. In Genesis, humans are forms, but they are lifeless until "God breathed into his nostrils the breath of life" (Genesis 2:7). Our ability to breathe is linked very strongly with what we know as our uniquely conscious life. Today, we get a sense of this important aspect of life when a child is born. When both of my children were born, I remember the sensation of not breathing while I waited for my kids to take that first breath. All of us seemed to inhale and exhale in sync as life filled the room and we became aware of it.

For millennia, breathing and prayer have been partners. The ‘breath prayer’ was developed and practiced early in Christianity. It’s any simple, short phrase that you can pray within the span of one breath. As you repeat the phrase over and over again while paying attention to slowing your breath, both your spirit and body pray and become more aware of the presence of God. 

If you haven’t tried this practice before, the phrases below are a great place to start. If you haven’t prayed this way in a while, give the phrases below a try. Take several minutes to try this unique and beautiful form of prayer throughout the coming week. 

Breath Prayer Phrases (choose one and repeat):
- Come, Holy Spirit.
- Jesus Christ, have mercy on me.
- Your love reaches to the heavens.
- Be still and know that I am God.
- You are the Beginning and the End. (or You are the Alpha and Omega)


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About the Author
Isaac Gaff is the Managing Director of Worship and Creative Arts at Calvary UMC

Sunday Worship (John 20:19-30)

This week we'll be exploring John 20:19-30:  

On the evening of that first day of the week, when the disciples were together, with the doors locked for fear of the Jewish leaders, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you!” After he said this, he showed them his hands and side. The disciples were overjoyed when they saw the Lord.
Again Jesus said, “Peace be with you! As the Father has sent me, I am sending you.” And with that he breathed on them and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.”
Now Thomas (also known as Didymus), one of the Twelve, was not with the disciples when Jesus came. So the other disciples told him, “We have seen the Lord!”
But he said to them, “Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe.”
A week later his disciples were in the house again, and Thomas was with them. Though the doors were locked, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you!” Then he said to Thomas, “Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe.”
Thomas said to him, “My Lord and my God!”
Then Jesus told him, “Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.”
Jesus performed many other signs in the presence of his disciples, which are not recorded in this book.

Each Sunday you can find the live stream here or watch the archive here

Tomorrow on the Daily Connection: 'Teach Us to Pray' through John 20:19-30. 

A Light to My Path (John 20:19-30)

Read John 20:19-30:

On the evening of that first day of the week, when the disciples were together, with the doors locked for fear of the Jewish leaders, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you!” After he said this, he showed them his hands and side. The disciples were overjoyed when they saw the Lord.
Again Jesus said, “Peace be with you! As the Father has sent me, I am sending you.” And with that he breathed on them and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.”
Now Thomas (also known as Didymus), one of the Twelve, was not with the disciples when Jesus came. So the other disciples told him, “We have seen the Lord!”
But he said to them, “Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe.”
A week later his disciples were in the house again, and Thomas was with them. Though the doors were locked, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you!” Then he said to Thomas, “Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe.”
Thomas said to him, “My Lord and my God!”
Then Jesus told him, “Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.”
Jesus performed many other signs in the presence of his disciples, which are not recorded in this book.

Questions for Reflection:

  1. Jesus greets his disciples three times with the phrase "peace be with you." Why do you think he does that? Don’t look for a single, specific answer; explore possible options for why he might have.
  2. Identify a moment in your life when you felt like Thomas (wounded so much by past events that the truth is hard to believe). What things contributed to your experience?

Who Is My Neighbor? (UMCOR)

Let’s see how well you know your UMC acronyms:  UMC?  UMCOR?  GBGM?  You don’t have to recognize these acronyms to understand the strength of being a connectional church.  But just so I don’t leave you hanging:  UMC (United Methodist Church); UMCOR (United Methodist Committee on Relief); GBGM (General Board of Global Ministries).

As a connectional church (one in which all congregations work together throughout the world), the United Methodist Church is able to address needs that none of us could meet as local churches.  I mention the above organizations because they embody the commandment to love our neighbors.  The UMCOR is the first responder in times of need and works through the GBGM, our mission sending agency.  Our own missionary, Elmira Sellu, is supported through the GBGM for her work in Sierra Leone, Africa.  We’ll highlight Elmira’s work in a future segment.

One of the reasons that I’m proud to be a part of the United Methodist Church is because of the work of the United Methodist Committee on Relief (UMCOR).  According to their website:

“...our goal is to assist the most vulnerable persons affected by crisis or chronic need without regard to their race, religion, gender, or sexual orientation. We believe all people have God-given worth and dignity…..UMCOR’s work reaches people in more than 80 countries, including the United States. We provide humanitarian relief when war, conflict, or natural disaster disrupt life to such an extent that communities are unable to recover on their own.
While UMCOR cooperates with other aid organizations to extend our reach, our most important partners are the people we serve. We are confident that successful solutions to emergency or chronic conditions begin with the affected population. UMCOR provides these survivors not only temporary relief but long-term education, training, and support.”  

How does Calvary participate in the ministries of UMCOR?  Each year, your Outreach Committee sends a donation for the One Great Hour of Sharing Offering (now UMCOR offering).  These funds cover the cost of doing business.  When a disaster strikes, people can make donations to UMCOR and 100% of those donations go to the disaster relief!  From tornadoes in Washburn on Ash Wednesday to flooding in Colombia right now, UMCOR is involved in helping people in whatever ways possible.

Who is our neighbor?  When it comes to disaster relief, our neighbor is anyone who needs shelter, food, medical supplies, flood buckets, or a plethora of other supplies in order to move forward after a crisis.


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About the Author
Debbie Reese is the Co-Directing Pastor of Calvary UMC

Love Your Neighbor (Mark 16:1-8)

Reflections on Mark 16:1-8

Read Mark 16:1-8:

When the Sabbath was over, Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, and Salome bought spices so that they might go to anoint Jesus’ body. Very early on the first day of the week, just after sunrise, they were on their way to the tomb and they asked each other, “Who will roll the stone away from the entrance of the tomb?”
But when they looked up, they saw that the stone, which was very large, had been rolled away. As they entered the tomb, they saw a young man dressed in a white robe sitting on the right side, and they were alarmed.
“Don’t be alarmed,” he said. “You are looking for Jesus the Nazarene, who was crucified. He has risen! He is not here. See the place where they laid him. But go, tell his disciples and Peter, ‘He is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see him, just as he told you.’”
Trembling and bewildered, the women went out and fled from the tomb. They said nothing to anyone, because they were afraid.

Each Thursday on the Daily Connection we reflect on what it means to Love Your Neighbor in relation to the Scripture text for the week.  We do this in light of what Jesus calls ‘part two’ of the greatest commandment (See Mark 12:28-34) - to “love your neighbor as yourself.” Obviously, not every passage in Scripture speaks directly to this command (or the one before it to love God), but if we use these two commandments (to love God and love our neighbor) as lights to illuminate scripture by, they often revel things in the text we miss. 

On the surface, today’s text seems to have little to do with loving your neighbor. After all, the resurrection in-and-of-itself is a wonderful and mysterious thing to behold, even without thinking about its implications for our life toward others. But Mark places the reveal of the resurrection in a group of people (not just one) and also relays the instructions to tell the others. Unfortunately, the three do not connect with their ‘neighbors’ because of fear. Regrettably, I think that’s just as true today as it was two thousand years ago.  The resurrection (in all it’s many facets) is a communally unifying reality, but fear can keep us from experiencing that new reality. 

Questions for reflection:

  1. What fears are keeping you from embracing your neighbor (whoever they might be).
  2. How does the resurrection (in all it various incarnations) set that fear in context (how does that fear compare to resurrection)?
  3. What small thing could you do today to challenge one of these fears?

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Tomorrow on the Daily Connection: Who Is My Neighbor?


About the Author
Isaac Gaff is the Managing Director of Worship and Creative Arts at Calvary UMC

Deeper Dive Podcast (Mark 16.1-8)

Debbie, Randy, and Isaac talk about the ending of Mark's Gospel and how the resurrection intersects with all of life.

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About the Authors

Randy and Debbie Reese are Co-Directing Pastors at Calvary UMC
Isaac Gaff is the Managing Director of Worship and Creative Arts at Calvary UMC

Teach Us to Pray (Mark 16:1-8)

Read Mark 16:1-8:

When the Sabbath was over, Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, and Salome bought spices so that they might go to anoint Jesus’ body. Very early on the first day of the week, just after sunrise, they were on their way to the tomb and they asked each other, “Who will roll the stone away from the entrance of the tomb?”
But when they looked up, they saw that the stone, which was very large, had been rolled away. As they entered the tomb, they saw a young man dressed in a white robe sitting on the right side, and they were alarmed.
“Don’t be alarmed,” he said. “You are looking for Jesus the Nazarene, who was crucified. He has risen! He is not here. See the place where they laid him. But go, tell his disciples and Peter, ‘He is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see him, just as he told you.’”
Trembling and bewildered, the women went out and fled from the tomb. They said nothing to anyone, because they were afraid.

Sometimes we get to the resurrection of Jesus and we close the book, sit back, and say to ourselves “what a nice story, I’m glad it ended that way.” But when we read the death and resurrection of Jesus as an ongoing pattern that God infuses into our lives as Christians (in addition to the bodily resurrection of Jesus), the opportunity to continually live and pray in the pattern of death and resurrection becomes a much needed foundation for our life with God and with others.

As you pray today:

  1. Ask God to help you notice the pattern of death and resurrection all around you in the natural world, and then cultivate an attitude of thankfulness for that awareness.
  2. Ask God to help you notice the pattern of death and resurrection around you in your social relationships, and then cultivate an attitude of thankfulness for that awareness.
  3. Ask God to help you notice the pattern of death and resurrection in your own internal life, and then cultivate an attitude of thankfulness for that awareness. 

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Tomorrow on the Daily Connection: Deeper Dive Podcast (Mark 16:1-8)


About the Author
Isaac Gaff is the Managing Director of Worship and Creative Arts at Calvary UMC

Sunday Worship (Mark 16:1-8)

This week we'll be exploring Mark 16:1-8.  

When the Sabbath was over, Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, and Salome bought spices so that they might go to anoint Jesus’ body. Very early on the first day of the week, just after sunrise, they were on their way to the tomb and they asked each other, “Who will roll the stone away from the entrance of the tomb?”
But when they looked up, they saw that the stone, which was very large, had been rolled away. As they entered the tomb, they saw a young man dressed in a white robe sitting on the right side, and they were alarmed.
“Don’t be alarmed,” he said. “You are looking for Jesus the Nazarene, who was crucified. He has risen! He is not here. See the place where they laid him. But go, tell his disciples and Peter, ‘He is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see him, just as he told you.’”
Trembling and bewildered, the women went out and fled from the tomb. They said nothing to anyone, because they were afraid.

Each Sunday you can find the live stream here or watch the archive here

Tomorrow on the Daily Connection: 'Teach Us to Pray' through Mark 16:1-8. 

Lent 2017 - In a Tomb

There is no day quite like today. We remember Christ’s death and celebrate his resurrection throughout the year, but today provides a unique focus. This is the only day of the year on which God is dead. We sometimes hurry so quickly to the resurrection that we miss the opportunity to really reflect on the the concrete actuality of Jesus’ being dead. He joins us in the farthest reaches of our humanity—even beyond the vale and veil of death. We killed the Author of life. So in order to meditate on the whole mystery of Christ, today we rest—not in peace or enjoyment but in grief. 

  1. Read Mark 14:42–47.
  2. Ask God for the grace of holy grief.
  3. Join the mourners and make their grief your own. For them, this is loss, defeat, and despair. Pay attention to the care with which they bury their teacher and friend. Feel the linen wrapping around his lifeless body. Stand before the blunt fact of his tomb.
  4. Reflect on the reality of Jesus’ death. What does it mean that he truly dies? How does it affect the way you see death in your own life and world?
  5. Imagine walking through the empty garden where Jesus used to pray; dwell in his absence. Instead of the usual conversation, spend time in complete quiet. Pray without speaking, sitting in the silence of the garden.

About the Author
Nick Chambers is the Associate Minister at Peachtree Christian Church in Atlanta, GA and the former Director of Spiritual Formation at Calvary UMC.